Live, Love, and Learn: Sibling Rivalry is Rearing its Ugly Head

Thursday, October 30, 2008

Sibling Rivalry is Rearing its Ugly Head

So far we've been really lucky in regards to sibling rivalry. Ryan and Katie get along great and are somewhat gracious and congratulatory when the other has something special going on. Of course there are the little digs here and there, "I got to have a piece of cake while you were at school." or "We watched a show in the car without you." and my personal favorite, "I got a brontosaurus and you didn't." Surprising how important is the shape of a vitamin! But things really came to a brutal head tonight at dinner and here's how the showdown took place....

In school Ryan can earn a free personal pan pizza from Pizza Hut from reading books, so he earned his certificate for October and off we went for dinner tonight. The whole way there Ryan's excited, jabbering on and on about his free pizza. To the point that Katie is getting jealous. Extremely jealous, and points out that she's read those exact same books as Ryan so why can't she get the precious certificate too? Good point. So we promise her that we'll get her a personal pizza too, no big deal. Until as we're eating our personal pizzas and Ryan continually points out that his is free. Katie's in tears over this. Excuse me, isn't all your food free? Have I ever made you bring your wallet along when we go out and make you pay for your own dinner? If you're going to be jealous about something, can't it be an actual discrepancy in fairness?

So this is why we will continue reading our books, but we might not have the celebratory dinner with the free pizzas anymore!

2 comments:

Robyn said...: Well, Caleb does this to lec all the time... Except Alec doesn't talk yet so I guess it's not all bad... Now I see what I have to look forward to! Yikes!; November 1, 2008 at 12:59 AM
Anonymous said...: Ha ha ha! I only laugh because we have the same stuff around her now and then. Not between Kate and William, but between William and Henry. the other day David took Henry to McD's, and boy I thought William was going to have another stroke when he got home. But I explained to him that not everyone gets all the same stuff...last weekend YOU got to go camping alone with Daddy, and had s'more and lots of fun while we all stayed here. And Kate, you and Mommy are going birthday shopping with Memiere next weekend, and then out to lunch, so you see? We all get something fun, but different.

That actually seemed to help, believe it or not. I learned that trying to make everything equal all the time made our problem worse... Now I explain it more along the "different but equal" line.; November 1, 2008 at 7:09 AM

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There is no filter in a child's mind- they say whatever they're thinking without a care if it's socially appropriate... sometimes I'm left wishing I could dig a hole and hide, other times my heart is melting from the sweetness of their thoughts. Here are some of their classic moments:

Katie one day decided she wanted to start taking showers instead of baths. She explained to us that "The bad thing about baths is that you dip your head where your bottom just was!"

embarrassing moment #382
"I know why your bottom is so big, it's because you ate too much ice cream"

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At church one Sunday, Claire was playing around the baptismal fountain. We rushed over to grab her before she fell in. Ryan scolded her saying,"If you fall in there you would be blessed, and then you would drown."

We were talking about how when I was little there weren't any car seats. Katie asked, "Is that because you rode in a horse and wagon?"

Claire just kissed me, I'm not going to wipe off all her slobber yet- I'm going to wait until the love is absorbed first, then I'll wipe it off.

On the difference between boys and girls... "Boys have a penis, but girls get to paint their nails."

They used to totally flip out when the rain washed away their chalk drawings and hopscotch, now they recognize it as "God's eraser."

I offered a slice of my spinach/feta pizza to Ryan who apologetically declined, "No Mommy, I don't want to throw up today."

We were discussing how Christmas is a birthday celebration for baby Jesus and asked the kids what they thought Jesus would like for a birthday present. Ryan responded, "Probably nothing since he's dead."

Katie recently complained to me that she's "not having much luck getting people to pay her before coming into her room" I asked how much it costs to enter, and she informed me, "My fee is $20."

After taking Ryan to school on the first day of Kindergarten, Katie broke down sobbing, "Now I have no one to play with except a baby! And she's going to bite my nose!"

In a movie we were watching, a man was singing and Ryan asked if it was David Cook. I told him it wasn't and he said, "Too bad, that would be a treat for the ladies!"

I am the only brunette in a golden blonde world, and once when he was little Ryan suggested that I go to the doctor so he could fix my hair.

Ryan on Kindergarten friendship, "I told that kid he was pretty cool, and he told me I'm awesome, and then we were friends." I hope it's always that easy to make friends.

Embarrassing moment #462
I was talking to a friend about her upcoming wedding and Katie interrupted- "Uh, aren't you already married?? You should be since you have a baby."

Ryan on T-ball vs Soccer... "I'd like to sign up for T-ball again, as long as they don't make me play in the outfield... that was boring!"
Why do we need to bring my birth certificate? Isn't my proof that I was born that I'm standing right here? --Ryan, not quite understanding the complexity of traveling across the Canadian border.

Katie wants to know why there's a reindeer named Nixon, but none of the other presidents had a reindeer named after them...

We were practicing all the body parts with Claire, she's learning to identify eyes, hair, belly button, etc. and Tim asked her to find Daddy's eyes. She leaned over and practically gouged out his eyes and said, "Ass." Her pronunciation is a bit off, but she's getting the basics!

Hark the Herald Angels Sing~ go ahead and sing it, I'll wait for you... Does it end the way Ryan's version does with a grand chorus of "Glory to the New York King!!!!"

I was taking Katie to the bathroom late one night around Christmas and she was mumbling something in her sleep. I asked her if she was excited for Santa to come and she answered, "He has to please his customers."

One day I thought Ryan had had a serious growth spurt. His pants were like 4 or 5 inches too short. Finally at the end of the day I asked him about them and it turns out they were Katie's pants. He said, "Yeah, I thought it was weird that they had a butterfly on the button."

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Ryan was sooooo disappointed to have school on St. Patrick's Day. "How can we have school today? Don't they know it's a holiday!"

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Mommy: "Ryan, get back over here, you haven't even touched any of your vegetables!" Ryan: "How many times do I need to touch them?"

Mommy, why is there a net inside my swim trunks? Is it in case I want to go fishing?

I have 2 questions Mommy... Why didn't you sign me up for ESL? And, What is ESL?

We were reading a story about Leonardo Da Vinci and Ryan stopped me after a few minutes. "Wait a minute mommy, his middle name is 'duh'?!"

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